Dating

When you are planning a date, remember you want to set the stage right from the very beginning.  The purpose of dating is to get to know the person you’re dating, I mean really get to know his or her heart… not their body.  So follow these simple steps.

Date only Christians. Active followers of Christ, pursuing righteousness.

Be Creative. Dinner and a movie is ok but that can get expensive.  Think about different ways you can spend time together that are creative.  Go hiking, picnic, hit the beach, or go to the lake, prepare a meal at home.  If all your dates are costly you set the expectations high.  But if your creative you can afford to date more often and you’ll have more fun too.

Be a courteous, have some class. Gentlemen, open car doors for her, open restaurant doors for her, pull her chair out for her then help her scoot back in to the table.  Don’t speak to her like she’s one of the guys, crude or foul.  Pay her respectful compliments, and pay for the date.  Ladies, dress conservatively, give him every opportunity to be that gentleman, and be gracious when he is.

Stay sexually pure. Remember that God has a perfect mate for you, someone who was actually designed to compliment wwho you are.   Wait for her/him!  It will be worth it.  Stepping outside of God’s plan for you can really distort your entire life.

Pray together. before you leave on your date together, pray.  Sample:  Lord, thank you for bringing this lovely man/woman and I together this evening/afternoon for a date.  help us to remain in your will, avoid temptation and enjoy the time we have together.  Amen.

Do ministry together. You can really get to know a person’s heart through this technique.  Volunteer to help serve dinner at a homeless shelter, make cards and take them to residents at a nursing home.  Get involved with an organization who works with kids.  Visit children at a hospital (cancer ward) take them balloons with encouraging messages on them.

Scripture for dating:

I Cor 7:39, IICor 6:14, I Thes 4:3-8, I Cor 6:12-20